Kids say funny things

My five-year-old says his nose is running like a tattoo. Where in the world did that come from? 

How Germ Free should you go?

This is a fitting reminder for me and anyone else suffering from illness right now. I know what to do to be "safe." Sometimes I just get out of the habit! I actually found a hard washcloth in the sink today! Disgusting! I try to be careful without going overboard. For me, that sometimes leads to careless or being "too" clean. It's like I either focus on getting rid of germs or I ignore them. I am an all or nothing girl when it comes to this-for some reason!

FROM CNN: Being exposed to some germs is okay. It helps us build up a healthy immune system. But too many germs, especially in the home, can spread harmful bacteria.

No matter how hard you might try to keep your house clean, experts say there is no way to keep it germ free. "This is a house, not a surgery room, it's not supposed to be sterile." But Dr. Zehava Eichenbaum, a microbiologist, says you might be surprised to learn that one of the germiest places in the house is the kitchen sink.

She recommends dousing the sink with bleach once a day, and keeping an eye on those dirty sponges. "You find MRSA, staphylococcus, you find salmonella, e coli, you find pathogenic
and non pathogenic bacteria so essentially everything that we bring into the
kitchen you will find in a sponge."

Eichenbaum does not recommend going overboard on using antibacterial products, but she does have some ideas on how to prevent the spread of germs.

she suggests:
--Switching out sponges often.
--If you're wiping down a dirty counter, use disposable disinfecting wipes.
--Don't wash fruits and vegetables directly in a sink, put them in a strainer or other container.
finally, wash your hands.

Good old fashioned advice that experts say really works.

-NewsAnchorMom Jen

Telling kids about a family member's death

I am unfortunately dealing with how to tell my son about a death in the family. Coincidentally, I found this article today. It is about letting a child know a parent is dying(which would be absolutely horrible), but it has some tips that will help me explain a family death to my son. I have waited four days to say anything because I didn't want to say the wrong thing.

FROM ABC: Reality TV has gone pretty far already. We live vicariously through breakups, weddings, even live births on cable. If death is all that's left, then a British reality TV star with terminal cervical cancer has gotten extraordinarily close to broadcasting that moment.

Jade Goody's publicist reported Monday how the 27-year-old mother is explaining to her children that she is going to die.

"She's saying, 'there's going to be a star in the sky and that's going to be mommy watching you,'" said Max Clifford, Goody's publicist. Clifford said that Goody and her children Bobby, 5, and Freddy, 4, were recently christened and that Goody has been using the experience to explain her future death. "She's described that as 'through Jesus mommy will be in touch with you,'" Clifford said.

Such intimate details about a parental death are rarely this public -- either in private lives or in the media's glare. Actor Heath ledger's child, Matilda, has been kept out of the spotlight since his death in January 2008.

Although the untimely death of Princess Diana dominated the media in 1997, it was only last week that her son Prince William first spoke publicly about his loss.

"Never being able to say the word 'mummy' again in your life sounds like a small thing. However, for many, including me, it is now really just a word -- hollow and evoking only memories," he told a crowd during a child bereavement charity function Thursday.

While no one can soften the blow of losing a parent, social workers and psychologists who study bereavement say there are many steps and missteps families can take that will have an impact on the child later in life.

Clifford said Goody consulted with a bereavement social worker before speaking with her kids. The family chose to uniformly tell the children what will happen to their mother and bought a bereavement book called "Badger's Parting Gift."

In addition to books, experts have developed some working guidelines for speaking with children facing the death of a parent.

1. When clinical social worker Luanne Chynoweth saw that her very young niece and nephew were going to lose their mother, she made them something that would keep their mother alive in their memory.

"Their mom was only 30," said Chynoweth, now an assistant director of social work services at Fox Chase Cancer Center in Philadelphia.

"So we took pictures when she was still well at Easter and I gave the kids some framed pictures later of them being hugged and loved by their mom," she said. "That was very meaningful to them as adults." Whether it's a scrapbook or a video, or a letter for a wedding day, bereavement experts say children are usually comforted by a visible or tangible connection to their parents' past.

2. "Little ones are not really capable of [understanding] the concept of death the way we do," Reiss said. "Lots of younger kids who lost parents look sad and seem to understand it and then ask, 'when is daddy coming back?'"

Research from the American Academy of Pediatrics shows that children begin to fully grasp the concept of death between the ages of 8 and 12.

But even if children don't fully understand, experts say it's important for parents to stay honest: honest about their future, honest about their beliefs for the afterlife and honest about their emotions.

"I wouldn't advise people to say things that they don't believe in," Chynoweth said. "I wouldn't think that you have to make something up. Kids are perceptive and they'll see that that's not genuine."Aside from emotions, Chynoweth said some concrete facts can help a child watch a terminal illness.

"The good thing with kids is to prepare them for the things that they see," Chynoweth said. For example, if a parent has cancer, Chynoweth said it's reassuring for the child to hear a name of the diagnosis, a name for the medication and cause and effect explanations for such things as cancer medicine that causes the parent to lose their hair.

"It's basically not a good a idea to tell them dying is like going to sleep -- later they may want to go around checking everyone at night, or they don't want to sleep themselves," Reiss said.

On the other hand, Reiss said giving too much detail or long-winded explanations can confuse a child and add stress.

"It's pretty useful to give kids a little information and then give them a chance to ask questions," she said. That way, the parents will understand how much their child is grasping the concept of death.

3.Reiss said that in her experience, children commonly have fears about life after the parent's death or have guilt over the death, rather than fear of death itself. In this case, a little preemptive reassurance that he or she will be cared for and isn't at fault can ease a lot of anxiety.

"There's no cookie-cutter way to say something to people," Chynoweth said. "But, if something is going to impact a child's life, they do need to know about it."

Whatever a parent's approach, counselors emphasize there are some clear mistakes families can make when going through the loss of a parent."You never want to lie and say 'I'm not going to die,'" Chynoweth said.

In her years of experience, Chynoweth said she noticed a lot of frustration from adults who had been shut out of discussions, funerals and other family events when they lost parents in childhood."When they discover they were left out of something, they feel angry for years," she said.

Have you had to deal with a death in the family? What did you tell your kids?

-NewsAnchorMom Jen

10 Best Kid-Friendly Restaurants

I was reading Parents magazine and there was a list of the top 10 kid-friendly restaurants. The magazine looked for the healthiest kid foods, the best selection and the best price. We only have two of those restaurants in our area; Chilis and Dennys. Of course, I rarely go to either one, but maybe I should! 

We usually end up going to a Mexican restaurant. The kids get cheese quesadillas-which usually are just a side item.  That keeps the cost down at least! 

What restaurant do you like when it comes to feeding your kids for the best price?

-NewsAnchorMom Jen

Kids and Migraines

A medical breakthrough helping treat migraine headaches.. just announced at a medical conference in Scottsdale. The doctor who developed it says: the treatment is simple.. works in minutes... and has no side effects. The system uses a form fitting mask and an anti-inflammatory cream. Patients rub the cream on their forehead and temples and then put on the mask, which blocks out light. Hyson said the treatment, called Dr. Hyson's headache system also has no side effects and is safe for children, the elderly, and pregnant women.

I think this sounds like a good idea. But I googled Dr. Hyson's headache system and it's $50 plus S&H for 15 headache treatments. That's a lot more expensive than Tylenol. I do like the idea of a more homeopathic remedy though. Am I just being cheap or is this a little pricey?

-NewsAnchorMom Jen

I am so sick

I have been sitting in bed wishing I could sleep for two days. Does anyone else have this? I have no voice and my throat is raw. I mean raw! My kids were sick last week so I assumed I got what they had, but they were still running around the house. I have a hard time moving. I think I need a nurse to come over and take care of me! It's one of the those days I really wish my mom lived next door!

-NewsAnchorMom Jen