Wednesday, January 21, 2009
Someone new is at our house. Do you know who it is? It's our baby. A new baby can be a big adjustment for an older brother or sister. He's been the only one with us for over two years and we have given him so much attention and to bring home a baby and that kind of one on one environment was a little fearful. Pediatrician Michelle Tang Day says it's not unusual for parents to be concerned about the transition.
The child who once used to be the center of mom and dad's universe now has to share the spotlight a little. So jealously is something that is not uncommon. She has some advice for parents. It's important to make sure routines are set before the arrival of the new baby. "Any big changes -- potty training, transferring out of the crib. Make sure those are done well in advance of the baby's arrival."
Experts tell parents not to be surprised if the older child regresses and to be sure to set aside time for him every day to help him feel special.
Oh wow, do I remember this! I was just talking with my five-year-old about the time his brother was born. He remembers how he took a class and learned about babies and where they sleep and how they cry. (It was a sibling class at the hospital) That was 2 1/2 years ago so I was impressed he remembered not only the class, but the color of the clothes on the baby. Maybe he'll be a detective. Anyway, we still deal with jealousy. It is a constant struggle: "who gets moms attention more, etc." But my oldest son did run up to his brother this morning and hug him and say, "You are the best brother. I love you so much." The toddler just grinned. It was cute and made me worry less about the "sometimes" jealous behavior. So, what I am trying to say is the sibling class was great for us, but the jealousy is still inevitable!